Being a Mum with passion, drive, anxiety and postnatal depression!

Firstly let me introduce myself, my name is Tiffany and I am the proud new owner of Motherhood Unplugged! I have always had a huge passion for helping others and when the opportunity presented itself to help a community of women through the challenges and triumphs of motherhood I felt I had found my calling!

 Like everyone before becoming a mum I was on the rollercoaster of life – I was a new young wife (I married my best friend at 21), I had dreams of becoming a corporate manager after completing my degree and we had just purchased our first home.

Whilst becoming a mum was always something I knew I wanted, the timing of when I saw those two little pink lines certainly wasn’t great.

 I felt as though I had just discovered where I was going in my career and my husband (Nathan) had his own career goals that he was yet to achieve. Our whole identity was formed around our work, dinners on the way home and weekend sleep-ins.  A baby wasn’t supposed to happen yet!

One day on my train ride home from work I just had this strange feeling and felt like I needed to take a pregnancy test – thinking there was no way it could be positive.

 Well, two hours later I was standing in our bathroom holding not 1 but 9 POSITIVE TESTS!

 WHAT THE HELL WAS I GOING TO DO!

 

 

 

Nathan came home from work to me FREAKING OUT! Bless him for being so calm and excited. We had already overcome many other challenges – mother with terminal illness, planning a wedding, family drama, building a home – surely this was going to be a walk in the park.

Three weeks later we were waiting to get our first ultrasound, me struggling not to wet my pants and vomit all at the same time whilst fighting the urge to have a panic attack.

 It didn’t take very long into that scan for the next BOMB to hit us, we were expecting not 1 but 2 babies  – YES TWINS ON BOARD!!!! Cue the panic attack.

It was at this very moment that what I can now describe as perinatal anxiety kicked in. My mind was flooded with all the things we were going to have to change in our life and I had no idea how we were going to do it. Once again BLESS Nathan for being so cool headed – he really is the ying to my yang.

My pregnancy lasted 36weeks and 4 days and whilst it was textbook perfect I spent the entire time googling complications and convincing myself I am not worthy of having two healthy babies.

Surprise surprise after my two beautiful boys entered this world it didn’t take long for my depression to kick in. Days locked in my room, daily panic attacks, constantly doubting my abilities as a mother and feeling as though I had lost everything that made me who I was before becoming a mum.

 

 

 

All of these emotions topped with needing to change jobs just about broke me and Nathan for that matter. There was no doubt in my mind that I loved my kids but I didn’t know how to express it.

Following YEARS of therapy, finding a job I love, some minor relapses as life gets busy and the amazing support of my friends and family I am happy to say I have come out the other side.

 This entire experience is the EXACT reason why I jumped at the chance to help this community. I want to empower women to achieve their dreams, become the best mum they can be and enjoy life.

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